And The Truth Will Set You Free
Is Honesty The Best Policy?
You know that horrible stomach churning, heart sinking feeling you get when you know someone is about to be honest with you?
It’s that look in their eyes, that expression on their face. The way they’re umming and aahhing and beating about the bush, trying to tell you something you know you won’t want to hear.
We think we know what’s coming, it’s the same look your father had when you were 5 and he told you he was leaving.
Now here’s your Mum with a similar look… you don’t want to hear it. Your heart leaps into your mouth, you feel frozen to the spot, stuck in some weird time warp… you put your hands over your ears… “I’m not listening “ you repeat inside your head..over and over again. It has to be bad news…”I won’t hear it”!
Are we responsible for other people’s feelings? Are we responsible for their happiness or depression? That’s a tough question for most of us to answer isn’t it? Here’s an example;
Paul auditions for ‘American Idol’, absolutely sure he’s going to win – convinced by his friends he’s got the greatest voice since Elvis, and he truly believes he is the next ‘Idol’. He does his audition and Randy Jackson says “That was the worst audition in the 11 years the show’s been running, it was shocking!” Paul is devastated. The brutal truth hurts, badly.
Perhaps it would have been wiser for Paul’s friends to have told him the truth in the first place. Perhaps Paul’s friends don’t know what a great voice sounds like?
Being honest is tough, people might get hurt, they might hit you or hate you and never speak to you again. Your words might break someone’s heart, your actions might end another person’s career or even their life.
Being honest with ourselves might be even harder!
We are experts at justifying or making excuses for our bad and others’ behaviour. We can always talk ourselves around and in and out of things. So we bury our head in the sand and hope it goes away. Blocking the truth out because it makes us feel sick to even think about it.
And yet to grow up and take back our power and accept responsibility for our life we have to tell the truth about who we believe we are, and be honest with others.
Is there a way we can be honest kindly? Understanding that emotions are fragile, that egos are frail and that hearts are easily broken.
So how we can tell the truth without hurting others? Because when push comes to shove, not many of us are ready to hear the truth especially about ourselves. I would love to hear your comments.
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