Core Belief:No.1- “I Am Abandoned”

Core Belief:No.1- “I Am Abandoned”

“Today’s adolescents have suffered the loss of safe, intimate relationships” ‘No society that alienates its youth and sets them adrift can continue to exist, for it is already in a state of collapse’. William Mahedy & Janet Bernardi – ‘A Generation Alone’  “Today’s adolescents have suffered the loss of safe relationships and intimate settings that served as the primary nurturing community for those travelling the...

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Anger – Is It Nature Or Nurture?

Anger – Is It Nature Or Nurture?

‘If a small thing has the power to make you angry,  does that not indicate something about your size?’  ~Sydney J. Harris A negative belief is simply a negative thought connected to a negative feeling. There are several layers of beliefs; Core Beliefs Base Beliefs Compulsion Beliefs Assumption Beliefs Negative Predictions Antagonist Beliefs Fear Beliefs Antagonist Beliefs are formed when as children we are denied what we need or want and...

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What Is A Comfort Zone?

What Is A Comfort Zone?

Because our brain tends to use one fixed, automatic, repetitive pattern to keep us from feeling the pain connected to the ‘negative belief’, say “I’M NOT GOOD ENOUGH”, it’s impossible for us to ‘unthink it’, as it is stored in our unconscious memory vault and we will forever believe that “we are not good enough”. Unfortunately, having someone say to us “You’re really good at this” would also connect...

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“Love And Other Bruises”

“Love And Other Bruises”

“Love and other bruises didn’t have to choose us, but it did and I’m alive and I’m trying to survive” Air Supply Why does something that once felt so good now feel so terrible? That feeling of incredible love you felt when you first met the one your believed was ‘the one’. You know, ‘the one’  you believed would make you happy, support you and be there for you for the rest of your life? ‘The one’ you adored,...

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APOLOGIES FOR NEGLECTING YOU

APOLOGIES FOR NEGLECTING YOU

Just wanted to apologise to all my subscribers for being absent from my website for such a long time. The reason is I’ve been sick, yes, diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis, which to say the least came as a shock as I never expected to become nearly crippled with pain 24 x7. I suspect this came about as the result of the Staph infection I picked up after my foot operation over two years ago, months of antibiotics, a wheelchair because I...

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“LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE”

“LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE”

“LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE’ children yell to each other when they get hurt or belittled.  So why do children start telling lies? Lying usually begins in childhood and is done to try to protect ourselves from something we have done or imagined is bad or wrong so we don’t get punished. If we believe we are being accused of something, we immediately go into a defensive or survival mode and start trying to deny it. This is ‘a...

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