Anger – Is It Nature Or Nurture?

Anger – Is It Nature Or Nurture?

‘If a small thing has the power to make you angry,  does that not indicate something about your size?’  ~Sydney J. Harris A negative belief is simply a negative thought connected to a negative feeling. There are several layers of beliefs; Core Beliefs Base Beliefs Compulsion Beliefs Assumption Beliefs Negative Predictions Antagonist Beliefs Fear Beliefs Antagonist Beliefs are formed when as children we are denied what we need or want and...

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“Love And Other Bruises”

“Love And Other Bruises”

“Love and other bruises didn’t have to choose us, but it did and I’m alive and I’m trying to survive” Air Supply Why does something that once felt so good now feel so terrible? That feeling of incredible love you felt when you first met the one your believed was ‘the one’. You know, ‘the one’  you believed would make you happy, support you and be there for you for the rest of your life? ‘The one’ you adored,...

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“LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE”

“LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE”

“LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE’ children yell to each other when they get hurt or belittled.  So why do children start telling lies? Lying usually begins in childhood and is done to try to protect ourselves from something we have done or imagined is bad or wrong so we don’t get punished. If we believe we are being accused of something, we immediately go into a defensive or survival mode and start trying to deny it. This is ‘a...

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You Just Broke Your Child’s Heart!!!

You Just Broke Your Child’s Heart!!!

The Negative Things Adults Say To Children. Here are just some of the shocking negative things that adults say to children, I have collected hundreds of these put-downs, criticisms and  threats over the years I have been working with clients. Some are so shocking just the thought of having to hear them from a parents mouth is enough to make you shudder! One client’s mother told him every day from the time he was two years old “You are a...

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‘Skeletons In Our Closet’

‘Skeletons In Our Closet’

“We all have Skeletons In Our Closet“ You know – those guilty little secrets (we believe) to be so awful that we find it difficult to or shameful to talk about with anyone else. These can range from drunken one-night stands to betraying a best friend, to as much as finding out that someone in your family’s history was a criminal! However, ‘skeletons in the closet’ don’t just have to do with only dark pasts or family...

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In The Beginning Was The Word and the Word Was WHY?

In The Beginning Was The Word and the Word Was WHY?

                Your toddler hits four and it seems the only word ‘Little Miss or Master Inquisitor’ knows is WHY? “WHY do birds eat worms?” “WHY have cats got whiskers?” “WHY do flowers die?” “WHY does the sun go out at night?” “WHY are there holes in my cheese?” “WHY are peas and broccoli green?” “WHY is Daddy going away?” “WHY can’t I wear my wellies to bed?”  If...

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