What Are Expectation Beliefs?

Posted by on September 7, 2014 in Addictions, Failure, Negative Beliefs, Rejected, Shame, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on What Are Expectation Beliefs?

What Are Expectation Beliefs?

“Expectations are resentments under construction” – Anne Lamott From the moment we were born, most of our basic needs have been met. If they hadn’t I wouldn’t be sitting here writing this page and you wouldn’t be reading it. As we grow, our family, society, advertising and the media exploit us by continually building our expectations, not only of ourselves, but of others and the world. These expectations can become so addictive they can become obsessions and totally destroy any modicum of reality or good sense we...

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Everybody Worries About Money

Posted by on August 27, 2014 in Brain, Failure, Money | Comments Off on Everybody Worries About Money

Everybody Worries About Money

“Everybody Worries About Money” The very rich worry about what to do with their vast wealth; where to spend it, how much tax they have to pay on it, if the people they have administering it are trustworthy, how much to give to charity to offset their tax bill, what death duties will do to it and how much their children will inherit when they die. Moderately wealthy people worry about losing their hard-earned, hard-won money.  So they invest in property and small businesses and hope their stocks and shares gain enough interest to...

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Turning Off The ‘Addiction Switch’

Posted by on August 26, 2014 in Addictions, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Turning Off The ‘Addiction Switch’

Turning Off The ‘Addiction Switch’

The Perfect Catch 22 The void that addiction attempts to fill with food, alcohol, drugs, shopping, relationships, sex etc. does not get filled by the choice of addiction. What the addiction does is keep creating the void so we can stay addicted to it in order to fill the void. Like anti-depressants we get addicted and then we have to keep taking them, not because of the depression, but because we’ve become addicted to them. Same with alcohol and all other addictions, we become addicted to the addiction.   Filling The Void That...

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Do You Ever Think You’re Stupid?

Posted by on June 27, 2014 in Brain, Failure, Self-Image, Shame, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Do You Ever Think You’re Stupid?

Do You Ever Think You’re Stupid?

Most of us believe we’re stupid! That’s a bold statement to make you might say, but when a person’s intelligence is measured by whether we can pass tests or not, it’s no wonder then that we come to believe we’re stupid. Plus, stupid is a word children bandy around to describe anything they don’t understand. Not only does not passing tests, not mean we are stupid, it means that being judged on our intellectual prowess damns most of us to hell! And who is it who is forced to take these ‘Intelligence Tests’? Teenagers and young...

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Healing The Pain Of Grief & Loss

Posted by on June 19, 2014 in Alone, Depression, Feelings, Happiness | Comments Off on Healing The Pain Of Grief & Loss

Healing The Pain Of Grief & Loss

My first experience of ‘loss’ came, when in the middle of the night, our family did one of our ‘moonlight flits’. I think I was about 8 years old. I remember I was sitting in the back of a van with my cat Fluffy in my arms, and she, being frightened by all the fuss and noise going on, jumped out of the window, leaving painful, bloody scratches on my arms and hands. I leapt out after her and ran around in the dark calling her name. Dad was desperate to get going (as would become the norm-non payment of rent) and picked me up...

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How To Stop Arguing in Just 5 Minutes!!

Posted by on June 10, 2014 in Anger, Blame, Blame, Fear, What Are Beliefs | 2 comments

How To Stop Arguing in Just 5 Minutes!!

“I Have To Be Right” You know something really weird? Ever since I got rid of my ‘I have to be right’  beliefs way back in 90’s, I’ve had this thought most days. “If every person on this earth eliminated the belief “I have to be right” the world as we know it would change overnight”.  Wars, arguments and crime would stop. They would have to because all we are fighting for is ‘to be right‘. Think about it. Seriously!  If nobody had the genetic beliefs “I have to be...

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‘How To Change The Way You Feel Not The Way You Look!’

Posted by on May 16, 2014 in Happiness, Self-Image, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on ‘How To Change The Way You Feel Not The Way You Look!’

‘How To Change The Way You Feel Not The Way You Look!’

‘Young girls today are more afraid of getting fat, than of their parent’s dying or of nuclear war!’ Are you unhappy with the way you look? Who do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you hate yourself for not being the perfect image that the media tells you should be? Do you think there is nothing you can do to change your perception of yourself except take drastic measures like cosmetic surgery, liposuction, strenuous exercise or dieting? The cosmetic surgery, fashion, weight-loss and cosmetic industries spend (and...

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Addicted To Our Addictions

Posted by on April 20, 2014 in Addictions, Brain | Comments Off on Addicted To Our Addictions

Addicted To Our Addictions

You wouldn’t believe the lengths that people will go to avoid dealing with their emotional pain. Or perhaps you would because you are suffering from one of these addictions right now? Alcohol, prescription and recreational drugs, cosmetic surgery, gambling, food, extreme sports and exercise, computer games, shopping, obsessions, sex mania, destructive relationships, hoarding, addictions of all sorts. Every day you promise yourself, “This is the last time I drink, take a gamble, swallow those pills, drown my sorrows or harm myself”....

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Do You Sometimes Feel You’re Going Mad?

Posted by on April 15, 2014 in Depression | Comments Off on Do You Sometimes Feel You’re Going Mad?

Do You Sometimes Feel You’re Going Mad?

 “You’re Driving Me Mad!!” I don’t know about you but I just hate that label ‘Mental Illness’!  It always implies madness and or insanity to me. “She’s going mental”; “You’re driving me mental”, “I think I’m having a mental breakdown”, ‘Mental Institution’ ‘Mental Ward’. Although the word ‘mental’ does mean ‘Of The Mind’,  ‘Mental Illness’  has long been the cruel ‘catchall’ phrase invented by Psychology for all things pertaining to the brain and anything wrong with...

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Are You Dancing To The Beat Of Someone Else’s Drum?

Posted by on April 7, 2014 in Self Esteem, Self-Image, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Are You Dancing To The Beat Of Someone Else’s Drum?

Are You Dancing To The Beat Of Someone Else’s Drum?

I’ve just finished reading Dean Koontz ‘False Memories’. A story of a power driven, wealthy Psychiatrist who hypnotises his clients to do truly disturbing and terrible things not only to themselves but also to others. This reminds me how vulnerable we all are to outside influences who shape our belief systems and create havoc , greed, hunger and hatred in our world. From huge corporations who prey on our need to belong, to fit in, to religions who tell us we should feel ashamed and guilty for just being ourselves. And to our parents and...

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