What Is A Comfort Zone?

Posted by on October 26, 2017 in Alone, Money, Relationships, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on What Is A Comfort Zone?

What Is A Comfort Zone?

Because our brain tends to use one fixed, automatic, repetitive pattern to keep us from feeling the pain connected to the ‘negative belief’, say “I’M NOT GOOD ENOUGH”, it’s impossible for us to ‘unthink it’, as it is stored in our unconscious memory vault and we will forever believe that “we are not good enough”. Unfortunately, having someone say to us “You’re really good at this” would also connect us to “I’m not good enough”  so the same automatic belief comes in to block both...

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Turning Off The ‘Addiction Switch’ – Permanently

Posted by on October 25, 2017 in Addictions, Depression, Self Esteem, Self-Image | Comments Off on Turning Off The ‘Addiction Switch’ – Permanently

Turning  Off The ‘Addiction Switch’ – Permanently

Whether we’re addicted to food, shopping, gambling, sex, recreational or prescription drugs, relationships, alcohol, computer games, work or sport or have any other form of compulsive behaviour, the underlying belief system is always the same. All addictions stem from ‘negative beliefs’ and come to control and ruin our lives, and because we usually get addicted early and we come to believe ‘we can’t live, or that life is not worth living without it!’.  Addictions start off as ‘obsessive feelings or cravings’....

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“Love And Other Bruises”

Posted by on October 24, 2017 in Anger, Guilt, Shame, Violence, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on “Love And Other Bruises”

“Love And Other Bruises”

“Love and other bruises didn’t have to choose us, but it did and I’m alive and I’m trying to survive” Air Supply Why does something that once felt so good now feel so terrible? That feeling of incredible love you felt when you first met the one your believed was ‘the one’. You know, ‘the one’  you believed would make you happy, support you and be there for you for the rest of your life? ‘The one’ you adored, who adored you, who held you fiercely, couldn’t wait to see every day, bought you gifts and...

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You Have To Be Perfect Or You’ll End Up Like Me!

Posted by on October 23, 2017 in Self Esteem, Self-Image, Shame | Comments Off on You Have To Be Perfect Or You’ll End Up Like Me!

You Have To Be Perfect Or You’ll End Up Like Me!

‘Sarah always had to colour inside the lines, not get herself dirty, eat everything on her plate and not talk back’ My client Sarah’s mother, who had a lifelong battle with her weight, took Sarah to her ‘Weight-Watchers’ group every week from the day she was born until she was thirteen years old and refused to go any more. During the week her mother would also invite her Weight-Watcher’s friends around and they would moan and gripe about their weight problems and diets and how much they hated themselves and their...

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APOLOGIES FOR NEGLECTING YOU

Posted by on September 21, 2017 in Brain, Happiness | Comments Off on APOLOGIES FOR NEGLECTING YOU

APOLOGIES FOR NEGLECTING YOU

Just wanted to apologise to all my subscribers for being absent from my website for such a long time. The reason is I’ve been sick, yes, diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis, which to say the least came as a shock as I never expected to become nearly crippled with pain 24 x7. I suspect this came about as the result of the Staph infection I picked up after my foot operation over two years ago, months of antibiotics, a wheelchair because I couldn’t put any weight on the foot until the bone regrew and to tell you the truth I have never...

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“LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE”

Posted by on September 21, 2017 in Beliefs, Brain, Guilt, Shame | Comments Off on “LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE”

“LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE”

“LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE’ children yell to each other when they get hurt or belittled.  So why do children start telling lies? Lying usually begins in childhood and is done to try to protect ourselves from something we have done or imagined is bad or wrong so we don’t get punished. If we believe we are being accused of something, we immediately go into a defensive or survival mode and start trying to deny it. This is ‘a reflex self-protective response’  to a situation that has made us feel afraid, ashamed and/or...

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Motivation Beyond Belief Workshop – 19th May

Posted by on April 15, 2016 in What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Motivation Beyond Belief Workshop – 19th May

Motivation Beyond Belief Workshop – 19th May

Are you stuck in a rut? Do you find yourself lethargic, bored and uninterested in life? Have you lost your sparkle? Do you have a project or business you just can’t get off the ground? Motivation is a random beast! You have to generate it from somewhere, to do the things you used to jump out of bed with excitement to do. How did it everything get to be this hard? You may be able to generate some, but it’s fleeting – it takes a lot of energy to keep yourself going! When we can’t be bothered, when everything feels like it’s just too...

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Beautiful Beyond Belief Workshop – 2nd May

Posted by on April 15, 2016 in What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Beautiful Beyond Belief Workshop – 2nd May

Beautiful Beyond Belief Workshop – 2nd May

How often do you give yourself a genuine compliment when you see your reflection? Do you talk kindly to yourself or does this sound more like the conversation in your head? “I hate my body” “I hate my boobs”, “I hate my bum”, “I hate my thighs”, “I hate my face”, “I am ugly” “I’m not pretty/good looking enough”, “I am too fat/thin”. Have all the diets, latest health fads, gym memberships and positive affirmations offered little or no relief to the way you feel about yourself….?  Then it’s time to look...

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Wealth Beyond Belief Workshop

Posted by on April 15, 2016 in What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Wealth Beyond Belief Workshop

Wealth Beyond Belief Workshop

Do you have a poor relationship with Money? Are you overburdened with debt, or believe you’ll never be wealthy? Do you find yourself working harder and harder and never getting anywhere financially? Could be you have ‘negative beliefs’  about money undermining all your efforts. So, how do you know if you have negative beliefs about money/wealth? Take a moment to say each of the following statement out loud. Money is hard to come by I don’t have/can’t make enough money I spend too much money I don’t deserve to be...

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Why is it that knowing someone loves you, still leaves you feeling empty and alone?

Posted by on April 9, 2016 in Alone, Depression, Love, Rejected, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Why is it that knowing someone loves you, still leaves you feeling empty and alone?

Why is it that knowing someone loves you, still leaves you feeling empty and alone?

Why is it that knowing someone loves you, still leaves you feeling empty and alone? I am a voracious reader and  my reading list is wide and varied; Psychology, Self-Help, Personal Development, Auto-biographies  are just some of the genres I read. But  ‘believe it or not’ I am also attracted to Crime novels;  Stephen King,  Jonathan & Kaye  Kellerman, Patricia Cornwall, Kathy Reichs, Ian Rankin, Lynda La Plante, James Patterson, Val McDermid and Dean Koontz, just to name a few, all hold a macabre and chilling fascination for me....

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