Reflecting back over the past year I realise how much I've done and learned and still have to learn. I've redone the website, redone this Facebook page, sort of learned how to write articles, learned about internet marketing - still have miles to go with that one - that time and health are the most precious things along with friends and family and that we never know what waits around the corner, that life is a continual change and challenge to be welcomed and shared.

I've learned to let go and accept that I am only human and not perfect and that friends sometimes get sick and all we can do is be there for them in heart and spirit. I've learned that the more I can do to help heal people's hearts is even more valuable than I realised and that my life on this planet is important to those seeking peace and happiness. Thank you to all my friends, family and my clients for believing in me and for your continued support. You make my life worth living.  Annie

I never waste my money buying glossy magazines, I like the great design and the glossiness of them, but they usually bore the pants off me, all those lipsticks, each one promising to make our lips look like Angelina Jolie! Fat chance of that unless we subject ourselves to Botox! All those expensive moisturisers that swear to take ten years off our face! The fact is that they use 14 year old models to advertise their latest miracle product. Not much hope for me then, although I wasn’t bad looking at 50 even if I do say so myself.

Anyway I digress, I was at the doctors the other day and I saw an article on Lady Gaga – sounds a bit like reverting back to childhood speech when you say her name doesn’t it? So this article went and I quote verbatim;

“Lady Gaga The Most Powerful Pop-Star In The World – sparked hysteria among her devoted Australian fans in her recent tour, but her heartbreaking confession shows that behind the costumes and make-up is an incredibly lonely young woman whose hope of finding love is dwindling. “There is no hope for me” she admits “I find romance in the pearls I slept with in my hands last night because I feel so lonely".

Although surrounded by a circus of stylists, minders and back-up dancers she has not true friend by her side. “It’s like the more famous she gets, the more isolated she gets” says a source. Really, she obviously did not study other rich and famous people before she decided to thrill the world with her younger, fitter act of Madonna. Although I must say I do think she has a better singing voice.

GaGa says she’s “Just trying to change the world one sequin at a time” and with a wardrobe she showed off in Sydney last week we think she’s succeeded!” Lady GaGa’s net earnings a year are $65 million which make that total about $185 million to date. Not bad for a 26 year old who sometimes looks decidedly weird! If this puts off prospective suitors then who can be blamed for her feeling so lonely? And GaGa, you’re still just a baby, you have lots of time to find Mr. Right and hopefully live happily ever after amongst all your costumes.

Anyway my main point here is that ‘Money Does Not Buy You a Partner or Stop You Feeling Lonely’. But it does expand your horizons, get you an enormous following and might set you up a secure future, that’s if you look after it, but that applies to everything in life doesn’t it?

But if you, like Lady Gaga, believe that 'Money Can't Buy You Happiness' or are having a hard time finding love, contact me and find out how you can start getting rid of the negative beliefs that are stopping you becoming rich and famous and completely loved.

Copywrite - Annie Moyes - April 2012

Why is it that we spend vast amounts of money and time on our external appearance but pay little attention to our emotional well-being?

Some people go to extraordinary lengths and a lot of pain, even getting into huge debt to change their appearance, yet spend very little time changing the way they feel.

Perhaps one of the reasons could be because the fashion and cosmetic industries spend billions of dollars each year advertising, making sure we believe that the way we look is more important than the way we feel?

Perhaps it’s because we have some negative internal dialogue going on in our head that tells us we’re “not good enough, attractive enough, or confidant enough the way we are’’, so we believe that by making ourselves look better, we’ll feel better.

Perhaps someone told us when we were kids that we were ugly or fat or weird and we believed them and have hated the way we look ever since?

At Beyond Belief Personal Development we teach you how to get rid of your self-defeating, destructive beliefs so you can accept and like yourself just the way you are and not become addicted to fashion or drugs to make you feel better.

Contact us today for a FREE ONE HOUR SKYPE SESSION to find out how you can learn how to raise your Self-Esteem in weeks.

Copywrite – Annie Moyes 2012

OUR BRAIN IS HARD-WIRED TO AVOID EMOTIONAL PAIN AT ALL COSTS!

It goes like this; If as a child something unpleasant happens to us, perhaps we get bullied or rejected at school, we lose the 100 metre dash, we are bottom of the class at Math, we don’t have a good relationship with a parent or sibling, we lose a loved friend, grandparent or parent, or our parents get divorced, all these things taken one at a time don’t seem like much, but all together add up to a BIG DEAL.

Children deal with emotional hurt by avoiding it. They distract themselves with their pets or toys or watching TV or a DVD, anything to avoid feeling sad or angry, hurt or worthless. As time passes these unexpressed feelings grow bigger, and each new rejection, each new hurt, each new abuse compounds these feelings until they grow so big it is virtually impossible to suppress them. And that’s when addictions begin. As teenagers with hormones controlling our every thought we become so overwhelmed by the sheer weight of all these unexpressed feelings we become strangers to our family, teachers and ourselves. This is the brain’s way of ensuring our survival. We have to avoid the pain at all costs. Some of my clients started smoking dope and drinking alcohol as young as ten years old. Some became bulimic or anorexic at around twelve years old once they read about it in magazines and saw it on TV. Just as they did as children, most teenagers get through this nightmare by becoming addicted to something that helps them avoid or distracts them from feeling the pain carried through their childhood and often outgrow them in their twenties when they mature.

 Once we become addicted to an obsession of choice, we can then blame the addiction and not the pain for why we can’t or won’t change. Those of us unable to break free from our addiction justify or make excuses for it.

“I know it’s bad for me but..”

“I know it’s wrong but …”

“I know I shouldn’t be doing this but..”

“An alcoholic is someone who drinks more than me..”

“Smoking dope isn’t addictive..”

“I just want to make by boobs look better.. “

“I have a slow metabolism, I only need 500 calories a day..”

“I only drink one bottle of wine a night, my friends drink twice that much..”

We can justify and make any excuse until the cows come home, but the sad fact is we’re too scared to give it up in case the pain we’ve been suppressing all these years overwhelms us.  Apart from the terrible damage these additions cause to our body, our relationships, our work and our lives, they just prolong the agony and make us feel more ashamed and guilty and helpless because we can’t control or stop them. Use our Contacts Page to find out how you can get safely and easily eliminate your addictions.

If an expensive pair of shoes could cure low-self esteem, millions of women would be happy instead of being thoroughly depressed. Instead we now believe that ‘Image is Everything’ and like lambs to the slaughter believe that wearing these shoes will make us feel or look better and make people think we’re better than we are.

Designers like Manolo Blahnik, apparently the superlative ‘Sultan Of Slippers’, ‘Holy Man Of Heels’!!! - who “hates wedges and ‘believes’ in the power of heels and the sex appeal they convey” and other famous shoe designers such as Jimmy Choo and Christian Louboutin - net worth US$85 million - his devout shoe shopaholics spending up to $6,000 on a pair of his shoes - are laughing their gleeful little socks off all the way to the bank at how gullible we women are.

Apart from the physical damage these shoes do to our feet, from sprained and broken ankles to deformed toes, shoes do not a woman make! I admit at times in my life I was also a bit of a fashion victim! In the 60’s Mary Quant ruled British fashion with mini-skirts and structured haircuts, and it didn’t cost much for a caftan and a pair of flared jeans in the 70’s, and I did buy a pair of platforms and thought I was trendy and sprained my ankle several times. And I still have turned-in big toes from wearing stilettos for a while. I then spent the next 20 years trying to understand why fashion didn’t make me feel better!

Young women are particularly susceptible to becoming fashion victims, believing that clothes and make- up will make everything better and that by looking good we will be more acceptable. We are easily sucked into spending what money we have (or borrow) on trying to prove we’re ‘good enough’ and not a social out-cast.

From toxic false nails to poisonous Botox injections; from gas-guzzling Jeeps to the most expensive Polo, Adidas and Nike Sportswear (made in Chinese sweatshops for a few dollars) today’s men and women are ‘label fanatics’ - brain-washed, hoodwinked, and ripped off. We are ‘led to believe’ that is it essential to our well-being that we ‘have all this stuff’. And we pay a fortune for blindly believing them, blithely charging them to our credit cards with no thought about the consequences to our pocket or self-esteem.

Self-esteem never begins on the outside; sure, a cute dress or a string bikini will help attract some attention, but people with great self-esteem don’t need to market themselves, they just wear what they feel comfortable in. Spending vast amounts of money on clothes and beauty products and cosmetic surgery might make us look better but it can’t make us feel better.

You can dramatically increase your self-esteem by getting rid of your negative beliefs and then you can be happy with how you look and who you are. Contact us today to find out how you can start improving your Self-Esteem for less than the price of a pair of Jimmy Choo Shoes.

If we look at an individual experience we must take into account genetics, character, disposition, temperament, nurturing, intellect, health etc. All these combined with our own unique appearance, fingerprints and DNA make us totally unique from every other being on this planet.  These remarkable differences should be looked on as a privilege, they should make us feel special, but sadly for most of us they make us feel alienated and different, and  being ‘different’ is largely frowned upon in our society.

As a survival mechanism humans need others to ensure our survival. From birth to death we are instinctively pulled towards others who we believe can aid our survival. Once we leave the family nest our instincts pull us towards creating a family of our own to give us a sense of belonging and acceptance and to perpetuate our long-term survival.

Human emotions are terribly frail, if our whole emotional life is built around our survival instincts, who can blame us for feeling afraid, alone, lonely and unwanted when we feel so different. So alone do humans feel, because we can’t find any reason for our existence, we spend billions of dollars searching outer space hopefully to find other people like us out there who can validate that we exist in the vast and unfathomable universe.

Throughout my life I often had the awful thought ‘Nobody understands me’ and I hear this echoed everywhere, in songs, in poetry, in plays and films and books and from my clients who feel isolated and misunderstood. “Nobody understands me” we wail, “Why does nobody understand me?”

Since humans evolved the ability to reason, we are able to predict a future for ourselves and with this ability comes worry and anxiety about our long-term safety and survival. When those closest to us seem distant, mean and hurtful or reject us, we don’t understand that they too are unconsciously worried about their own survival. We take this as a personal insult or rejection of us. Each small pin-prick of rejection turns into a fear of abandonment, leaving us feeling empty, dissociated and unwanted.

Taking some time to get to understand ourselves and getting rid of our negative prediction beliefs helps us to embrace our differences and frees us from the agony of loneliness, giving us more compassion, understanding and empathy for others and of course ourselves. If you believe 'Nobody Understands Me' and fear what the future might bring for you, contact us through  the Contact Page for a FREE one hour, one-on-one or Skype session and start getting  rid of your negative beliefs today.

Copywrite – Annie Moyes - 2012

"12 months ago I was so engulfed with my negative thoughts and feelings I spent most of my time in bed. As a young mum of two children I knew I couldn’t keep that up so was contemplating ending my life or running away. Over the years I had tried everything - various therapies and had been on and off probably every antidepressant and many other drugs for about 13 years. Enter ‘Beyond Belief’ and now I am free!  For the first time in a very long time I am truly happy, content, and I know I will never be in that dark place again because I have the tools to stop it happening. I feel liberated. The Beyond Belief Emmote programme saved my life." Cerys Absalom - Mother of two young children

I want you to know that before I learned the Emmote Programme I never felt the sense of power that is present in my life now. I had not been able to work for ten years as I has been very sick with Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Tiredness and stress would win me over and there was no joy in my life.  Removing my negative beliefs led me to retrain and enter the work force once again; I now have a new car, have a planned holiday in Bali, and going to Sydney at Christmas time. The love has increased in my family. I now get to choose my life instead of fluttering around like a leaf. Thanks to your kindness, and a lot of courage on my part, I am the happy person I see smiling back at me in the mirror. Thank you Thank you Thank you Annie and your Emmote Therapy, you are a blessing. Caroline Wood - Fibromyalgia & Chronic Fatigue Sufferer

“My parents instilled in me the belief that ‘Life is hard’ and I set out from an early age to prove that they were right. I set my sights on the stars and was shocked when I would keep crashing back down to earth. I came to believe I was ‘such a failure’. I would see other people living the life I wanted and couldn’t understand why my life was so hard and why I had to fight for everything. Someone mentioned the ‘Emmote Programme’ to me two years ago and I thought I might give it a go. Now my goals are realistic and I’m meeting them, life is easier and I have stopped beating myself up for failing to make the grade. I am much kinder to myself and life and people are kinder to me.  If you feel that ‘life is just too hard’ why not give ‘Emmote’ a try, it’s really simple to do and will change your life”. Brian Connolly

I knew I could win the race, which was all I had in my mind. Bang went the starter gun, around the soccer field out of the school grounds down to the shop and back into school. The 3 of us were neck & neck and there was the finishing line! Then it happened, I collapsed. I didn’t finish the race and I went crying behind the change sheds with “I am a Loser” and “They must think I am a Loser” ringing through my mind. I didn’t know it then but those statements, those declarations I made to myself at that moment would sit on my shoulders and interfere with everything I have done since in my life. Except for now! The physical process of removing those beliefs was like having a personal visit from God there was that much energy attached to them! To no longer carry those beliefs and many others like it has been the most liberating experience I have undertaken, hands down.  In fact it worked so well for me I have referred both family members and my own clients to Beyond Belief Personal Development.  The Emmote Programme applies the KISS Principle. Its fast, it’s simple, and it works!!! Justin Trigg - Health Coach