Are you still gnawing on the old bones of the unburied past?

In 1985,  as part of my self-development programme, I spent a weekend doing a Cybernetics Workshop; and I was most impressed with not only the content of the course, but also the great people who ran it. Towards the end of the weekend we were asked to do a meditation on Forgiveness.

It was explained to us that by being unable to forgive others, we keep them locked inside a prison within our mind, with us being the jailer who constantly has to keep vigil to ensure that our prisoner(s) do not escape. Part of the meditation included unlocking the cell door, allowing that /those people we refused to forgive their freedom, thus freeing ourselves from the onerous task and enormous emotional cost of keeping them imprisoned.

I visualised all the people who I believed had ‘done me wrong’ over the preceding years and one by one, forgave them and let them out. It was a marvelous feeling of release and I felt cleansed and remarkably free after the weekend was over.

However, this feeling, as often happens when the excitement of such a weekend gradually dissipates, I found myself still gnawing on the old bones of the unburied past.

Many pain filled years later I learned that forgiveness isn't about letting other people off the hook. It is about forgiving ourselves for all the self-loathing and shame and guilt we took on from our family, the mistakes, stupidity, thoughtlessness and the hurt we've inflicted on ourselves and others.

We need to free ourselves from the anger, resentment and jealousy and bitterness inside our hearts and minds.

Forgiveness is a therapy that only works when you stop hating yourself and others.  Once you are able to look at yourself and see a person who is likable and yes, even lovable  then you will have forgiven yourself and you will then be free to forgive others.

Forgiveness also has extraordinarily powerful benefits for your body, your relationships, and your place in the world. Letting go of anger and working on forgiveness could literally save your life.

Forgiving ourselves is a process that is imperceptible; you do not even have to say, "I forgive myself". All you have to do is eliminate the guilt and shame and anger you feel and forgiveness is yours.

And all those people, who you have had locked up in your imaginary prison, including yourself, will then be free to leave and you will be free to live at choice.  

If you're finding it difficult to forgive - just message us for a  FREE ONE HOUR  Skype or One-On-One Session.

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Our ‘Emmote’ process works at cellular level by eliminating the ‘negative thoughts and feelings’ that create a ‘negative belief’. It also severs the hardwired synapses between the thought and the feelings, eliminating them. Completely! Permanently! And it's so simple that even children as young as 10 can do it!

You will be able to recall the incident but not the feelings attached to it. It can no longer ‘trigger’ the feelings because they are no longer there, enabling you to move forward into your new, more positive life.

And because we teach you how to use the ‘Emmote’ process we empower you with the knowledge and tools to help yourself whenever anything negative comes up for you. Our ‘Emmote’ process is so powerfully life changing we 100% Guarantee it or we will give you your money back.

©Annie Moyes – 2013 – All Rights Reserved

"I am responsible for my own happiness"

Happiness is a feeling, just like anxiety and fear, which comes in waves; it can’t sustain itself because it’s not humanly possible to be happy all the time. And do you know why?

It’s because the ancient part of our brain that’s hardwired for survival (the Amygdala) is programmed from birth to look for any ‘threats’ in our environment just like any wild animal.

If we’re ultra-sensitive or have ‘negative beliefs’ we can be ‘triggered’ or imagine ‘threats’ at any time. One moment we’re out at a party having fun with friends, the next minute someone says something that ‘triggers’ us, and what previously felt like happiness now feels like anger or anxiety and we want to be anywhere else but where we are.

We might sit there and silently steam with the remark going around in our head. We might make our excuses and leave. We might be aware enough to know that our friend didn’t mean to insult us and get back into the fun or we might turn round and punch them in the nose with disastrous results.

So what started out as happiness turns into a huge negative drama, totally out of proportion to the circumstances, with no-one sure about what or why it happened.

And as often as we imagine happiness, we also imagine unhappiness.

These negative thoughts are called ‘negative predictions’ and we can’t help them; it’s the ways our brain is hardwired.

What I’ve learned from removing my own ‘triggers’ and working with hundreds of depressed people, whose first response to “What do you want to achieve”  is “I just want to be happy’, is that happiness is not what we ‘believe’ it is.  It cannot be bought or looked for or searched for, nor is it unreasonable to expect more of it.   

Removing our negative beliefs not only removes the triggers that cause our unhappiness, but frees us from irrational ‘primal’ behaviour to behave like the adults we are, and also gives us more time to enjoy our life and experience happiness even when things get tough.  

If you’d like to be happier – message us and book your FREE ONE HOUR Skype or One-On-One session, you have nothing to lose but your ‘negative beliefs’.

©Annie Moyes – May 2013 – All Rights Reserved

For my birthday gift, my lovely son had bought me a framed Jack Vettriano print called ‘The Missing Man’ In the picture two women and one man, still dressed in evening clothes stand on a beach looking out to sea, obviously looking for ‘the missing man’.  (see pic)

I saw this picture on an online auction site a couple of weeks ago and it ‘struck a chord’ in my memory and I knew I had to have it  because it brought to mind the reoccurring dreams I have had for years which I called ‘The Lost Man’. Is this picture the reason these dreams have been triggered again?

In these long ago dreams, etched deeply in my mind, I was always at a train station, either waiting to board a train or waiting for him to disembark.  When he didn’t get off I would panic and run down the platform calling his name, although I don’t recall now what that name is.

If I boarded the train I would spend the whole trip searching for him, I would never find him and feel a yearning despair for missing him again.

In other versions of the dream I would just miss the train and he would be leaning out of a window waving desolately at me. Or he would be getting off without knowing I was on board and we would see each other through the window in passing.

Yet in other versions we would be at a gathering of some sort and we would again get separated - once even at our own wedding!  After each of these dreams I would awaken with such an aching loneliness that would last for hours.

Who is this ‘Missing Man’? Is he the ‘love of my life’ that I have missed? Is he a man I have known and didn’t recognise him as my soul mate? Is he someone I know and don’t know it’s him?

Am I to miss him for the rest of my life? Have you had similar dreams?  Have you found your missing other half? Or are you like me still looking? I would love to hear your thoughts.

©Annie Moyes – 23^rd April 2013 – All Rights Reserved

So What Is A Negative Belief?

In all the Thesaurus and Dictionaries we have researched for our work, we couldn't find one that offers the word 'TRUTH' in any connection to the word 'BELIEF'. Why is it important that we understand that BELIEFS are not the truth and are not real? Because it is these beliefs that continue to run our lives as adults!

Here are some common expressions used to express belief/disbelief: ”I believe that….”, “I can’t believe it!”, “I don’t believe it!”, “Can you believe it?”, “You’ll never believe it!”, “You won’t believe what I heard-read-did!, “It’s hard to believe!” Beliefs seem to be a conspiracy between the mind and the emotions, that intend to help us make sense of what we are experiencing. Until we can understand the difference between beliefs and reality we live in a state of irrational and illogical thinking and feelings,as children do.

You can have positive beliefs and you can have negative beliefs. Ideally , having no beliefs is preferable but at least positive beliefs - or wishful thinking, (like winning the lottery, or finding the perfect partner) can help us through a bad patch.

Our boyfriend dumps us and we wail "I can't believe that he would want to hurt me like that!” - this is disbelief. Take off the "I can't believe" part and we’re left with the reality; "He wanted to hurt me like that!". That's the truth!. We don't want to accept it, or face it, or deal with it, but we must.

It’s also not ‘hard to believe’ that if you listen carefully to what people say, they will tell you their beliefs because they say things like; “It is my belief that….”, I’ve always believed in…..”, “I believe that….”. Listen to yourself and see how many times you make these statements. 

The next time you have a conversation with someone see if you can count how many times they say the word belief or I believe. In fact, pay attention to how many times you repeat these words. Listen to how many times the word belief or believed is used on TV, in movies, and is written in books.

Our 'Emmote'  process removes the  negative beliefs that we ‘believed’ to be true before we could understand the consequences, so that we can see what is really true for us and be really true to ourselves. If you would like a FREE ONE-HOUR Skype or One-On-One session, just go to our Contacts Page and send us a message.  You have nothing to lose but your negative beliefs.

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Our ‘Emmote’ process works at cellular level by eliminating the ‘negative thoughts and feelings’ that create a ‘negative belief’ . It also severs the hardwired synapses between the thought and the feelings, eliminating them completely! Permanently!

If needed you will be able to recall the incident but not the feelings attached to it. It can no longer ‘trigger’ the feelings because they are no longer there, enabling you to move forward into your new, more positive life.

And because we teach you how to use the ‘Emmote’ process we empower you with the knowledge and tools to help yourself whenever anything negative comes up for you.

Our ‘Emmote’ process is so powerfully life changing we 100% Guarantee it or we will give you your money back.

©Annie Moyes –January 2013- All rights reserved

Honesty is hardly ever heard. And mostly what I need from you.” – Billy Joel

Why do we start telling lies? Lying usually begins in childhood and is done to try to protect ourselves from something we have done/or imagined is bad or wrong so we don’t get punished.

If we believe we are being accused of something, we immediately go into a defensive or survival mode and start trying to deny it. This is 'a reflex self-protective response'  to a situation that has made us feel afraid, ashamed and/or guilty. 

We learn early to try to deflect punishment away from us, even blaming others to escape punishment, trying out different ways of protecting ourselves, particularly if we have critical or abusive parents.

These ‘evasions and dishonesty’ often continue as we mature into adulthood growing more elaborate and becoming a ‘the story’ we tell to others about ourselves to cover up what we believe to be the 'bad/dirty/guilty’ parts of ourselves.

Lying becomes so automatic we are unable to be honest with anybody, least of all ourselves. The problem is that when we tell a lie it becomes part of the ‘secret life of us’, the ‘unmentionable guilt or shame’ that lying creates.

Example; A client’s brother has not seen or spoken to her for over 20 years because he sexually abused her as a teenager and forced her to lie about it saying he would tell everybody that she had started it. He cannot bring himself to confront his dishonesty and shame and left his sister to suffer from depression and addictions all her life.

Example; A boyfriend once asked me how many men I had sex with in the past – I asked him if he wanted me to tell the truth or lie. He decided he didn’t want to know. That way I didn’t have to lie to him or tell him the truth! Which is best?

These 'secrets and lies' grow like a cancer, eating away at our peace, our conscience and self-image.  Our shame and guilt builds at each new deceit and grinds away at our self-esteem and creates a life of misery, addictions and broken relationships.

"We All Lie In Some Way Or Other!"

A lot of us pretend to be what we are not, we say yes when we want to say no, we smile when we want to scream, we pretend we’re OK when we are falling apart, we have sex when we don’t want it and we exaggerate our skills and talents because we can’t let others know how inferior and worthless we believe we are.

Some people aren’t so good at overt lying while others become such consummate liars that they can look people in the eye and convince them they’re telling the truth. Some of us can become such seasoned liars, when we've run the story enough times we even come to believe it ourselves.

If you’re a seasoned liar, ashamed or afraid to tell the truth, if you have problems being honest or find it difficult to tell fact from fiction, offload your guilty secret, or a lie you told that got someone in trouble, in the comment box below, you’ll feel so much better for it! 

Or hop over to our Contacts Page to receive your FREE ONE-HOUR Skype or One-On-One session and send us a message. We will get back to you.

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Our ‘Emmote’ process works by eliminating the ‘negative thoughts and feelings’ that create a ‘negative belief’ at cellular level. It also severs the hardwired synapses between the thought and the feelings, eliminating them. Completely! Permanently!

And because we teach you how to use the ‘Emmote’ process, in the privacy of your own home, when we choose, we empower you with the knowledge and tools to help yourself whenever anything negative comes up for you.

Our ‘Emmote’ process is so powerfully life changing we 100% Guarantee it or we will give you your money back.

 Copywrite - Annie Moyes. 2013 - All Rights Reserved

"I Hate The Way I Look"

"I hate my boobs", "I hate my bum", "I hate my thighs", "I hate my face", "I hate my legs" etc… These are the cries of millions of women throughout the world.  They are an endless negative anthem ringing through most female minds, corrupting our self-confidence and destroying our self-esteem.

My gorgeous client Charlotte, like millions of women throughout the world, would take a minimum of one hour to get dressed every day, two if she was going out again after work. She would try on the outfit she had chosen the night before and then spend five minutes examining her reflection in the mirror. Her negative self-talk would go something like this; “This dress makes my bum look enormous and the colour doesn't suit me”, “I hate the way I look in this!”

She would then take it off and try on another outfit, with similar thoughts going around her mind about shape, colour, fit, etc.  Meanwhile time is ticking away and she realises if she doesn't choose something quickly she will be late for work. By now she’s worked herself into a frazzle; everything she has tried on has something wrong with it. Her bedroom is covered in discarded clothes and she’s angry, frustrated and hating herself for being so indecisive. She has to choose something so she picks up the first outfit she tried on and angrily rushes out the door.

Each day she would start work in a bad mood and feeling she looked awful. No matter how great she looked or that her co-workers would say that her dress was lovely, she wouldn't believe them and it made her angrier that they couldn't see what she could. The way she looked had spoiled her day and she went home in the evening feeling angry. She would then take it out on her partner or on the dinner or crash around the house and sulk. If they were to go out in the evening regardless of whether it was to a friend’s house or dinner, she would go through the whole process again.

By the way Charlotte is five feet tall in her bare feet, she takes a size 6-8 clothes (Australian) has beautiful long dark hair and piercing blue eyes and is a stunning young woman. In fact she looks so lovely that most women would give their soul to look like her. No matter that everyone told her she was beautiful, she didn't believe them, she believed she was ugly and no-one was going to change her mind.  After Charlotte eliminated her negative beliefs about the way she looked, the daily drama is gone and her partner is overjoyed. If this is your daily drama then getting rid of some negative self - image belief will get you feeling great about yourself and not care what others think.

Our 100% Money Back Guarantee!

Our unique ‘Emmote’ process works deep at cellular level by totally removing the ‘negative thoughts and feelings’ that create a ‘negative belief’. It also severs the hardwired synapses in our brain between the thought and the feelings, eliminating them. Completely! Permanently!

And because we teach you how to use the ‘Emmote’ process we empower you with the knowledge and tools to help yourself whenever anything negative comes up for you in the future.

Our ‘Emmote’ process is so powerfully life changing we 100% Guarantee it or we will refund your money.

©Annie Moyes –January 2013- All rights reserved

One of my favourite authors, Sebastian Faulkes has this to say on ‘Lonely’

“Lonely means minding being on your own. In general Lonely looks after itself. It helps you generate strategies that reinforce it. The comfort of the dark cinema and the company of screen actors prevent you from meeting anyone. Lonely’s like any other organism, competitive and resourceful in the struggle to perpetuate itself.”

What this means is, if as a child we are left alone to occupy ourselves, we can become introverted and fall back on ourselves for self-comfort. So if we grow up with say, ‘abandoned, alone, lonely’ beliefs we will do whatever it takes to perpetuate them. Like, when we get invited somewhere, we’ll make up excuses why we can’t go, like “I’m too busy” when all we have to do is wallow in our loneliness. Saying things to ourselves like “I’m better off alone”, “It’s best for me to be alone, I’m not good company”. ‘They’ll enjoy themselves better if I’m not there”.

Forcing ourselves to socialise, we could be a spectator at a football match surrounded by thousands, and still feel lonely. We could sit at the dinner table with our family and still feel lonely. We could be out with our very best friends having fun, yet at any given moment that sense of ‘lonely’ steals upon us and we withdraw into ourselves and become a voyeur of our friends’ happiness.

Like Sebastian Faulkes says above we do things that perpetuate our sense of loneliness and isolation to validate our beliefs. We become obsessed with the very thing that hurts us, we can’t help it. The unconscious mind knows what it knows and the conscious mind always seeks to validate it. That’s the way our brain works. It’s not your fault. You can’t help it. But you can get rid of it.

If you would like to find out how to stop feeling lonely - permanently, hop over to our Contacts Page to receive your FREE ONE-HOUR Skype or One-On-One session. We will get back to you.

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Our ‘Emmote’ process works by eliminating the ‘negative thoughts and feelings’ that create a ‘negative belief’ at cellular level. It also severs the hardwired synapses between the thought and the feelings, eliminating them. Completely! Permanently!

And because we teach you how to use the ‘Emmote’ process we empower you with the knowledge and tools to help yourself whenever anything negative comes up for you.  

Our ‘Emmote’ process is so powerfully life changing we 100% Guarantee it or we will give you your money back.

©Annie Moyes –January 2013- All rights reserved

"Healing the Brain/Heart/Mind"

In the early 90's I was browsing through the ‘Self-help’ section in a local bookstore and intuitively bought a copy of Daniel Goleman's book ‘Emotional Intelligence’ and it was certainly this  book that began my quest for 'emotional intelligence’ – I had never even heard the phrase before!

Unfortunately I soon realised I had very little! Not a very pleasant experience at age 42 to acknowledge that most of the time I was still 16 years old emotionally. Ouch!

"Forget intellect! It is now proven that Emotional Intelligence is the key to having a life at choice and to being successful"

So what is Emotional Intelligence (EQ) ? Even though for over 20 years I had studied Psychology and Hypnotherapy, underwent extensive therapy and used many other alternative methodologies to help me overcome my ‘issues’, my emotional intelligence was still very low, and although I was successful in my business, I still FELT empty and lonely and that something was missing in my life that nothing seemed to fill. 

In 1995 I discovered our amazing ‘Emmote’ process and began eliminating my’ negative beliefs’ and as I did,  I realised I was becoming more emotionally intelligent, because I became calmer, more rational, more logical and more at peace than ever before. I stopped needing attention, stopped feeling lonely and unloved, stopped drinking alcohol to make me feel better and stopped sabotaging myself. And I have never looked back.

I am endlessly fascinated by the Brain/Mind/Heart connection, and how each one stores memories that have great power over us. Reflecting on Renee Descartes classic discourse - "I think therefore I am" perhaps today he might say instead; "I FEEL therefore I AM".

Removing the negative thoughts/feelings from my Brain/Mind/Heart has increased not only my mental acuity, my compassion, my understanding and my tolerance it has also mended my broken heart. My emotional intelligence has increased dramatically.

I FEEL completely different! In fact,  so different I can't even remember the woman I was back then, except to remember she was really screwed up and hard on herself! I actually like myself now! I can now look in a mirror and honestly say to the calm face looking back at me "Annie, you're OK - is that a new wrinkle - Ha Ha - only joking"!

Because of the enormous change in me, I chose this as my life's work and since 2003 when we opened the doors to Beyond Belief Personal Development; we have helped hundreds of people clear away their self-limiting, self-defeating beliefs.

We all love our lives now. And it’s all thanks to Daniel Goleman for giving me an insight into how our negative emotions/beliefs control and sabotage our lives.

If you would like to find out how our amazing 'Emmote' process can change your life, message us today for your FREE ONE-HOUR Skype or One-On-One session.

Our 100% Money Back Guarantee!

Our unique ‘Emmote’ process works deep at cellular level by totally removing the ‘negative thoughts and feelings’ that create a ‘negative belief’. It also severs the hardwired synapses in our brain between the thought and the feelings, eliminating them. Completely! Permanently!

And because we teach you how to use our ‘Emmote’ process we empower you with the knowledge and tools to help yourself whenever anything negative comes up for you in the future.

Our ‘Emmote’ process is so powerfully life changing we 100% Guarantee it or we will give you your money back.  So what have you got to lose?

©Annie Moyes – April 2013 – All Rights Reserved

Once upon a time, there was a poor unloved  girl called Cinderella

Once upon a time, there was a poor unloved  girl called Cinderella, who had to go and live with her Wicked Aunt and her two spoiled, ugly daughters.  Cinders was put to work, and as she was toiling day after day, she dreamed of a handsome loving man who would come along and rescue her from all this. She then imagined a lovely mansion where she could have everything she wanted and be loved forever after. Well we all know the rest of the story, but just to remind those of you who never read this fairy-tale as children;

Cinderella was rescued by a ‘PRINCE ON A WHITE HORSE’

-who had searched high and low looking for her, who immediately fell in love with her and took her away to his palace, lavished her with gifts and money and loads of the latest fashion shoes, where they both lived happily ever after. How wonderful, how amazing, how unbelievable!

The problem with this fairy-tale is that it is just that a fairy-tale and has no place in the realms of reality.  Another problem with this fairy-tale is that millions of girls truly believe that ‘one day their Prince will come and rescue them’.  For Mary, Crown Princess of Denmark, this myth actually did come true but unless you are born into Royalty, the chances of most girls meeting a real-life prince are practically non-existent.

In the meantime we meet a man but he doesn't have all the attributes of Prince Charming

- status, prestige, money, a palace or even a white horse - so we either discard him out of hand, or grow to hate him because he can't meet our beliefs about being the ‘Perfect Man’.  We grow critical and nagging and try to change him to make him into what we dreamed about, but, he’s just an ordinary guy, trying to love us, live with us and help us make ends meet, but that’s not good enough for us.

So if you've had relationships where you've attracted the ‘wrong man’ or are still hanging around waiting for your prince to come, you probably need to get rid of the beliefs you built around this story so that you’ll know when your second-best-to-Prince Charming arrives at your door, perhaps not with a glass slipper, but with his heart in his hands.

Our 'Emmote' process can help you catch a real-life Prince– and keep him. Or you can just spend the rest of your life dissatisfied and unhappy with what you've got!

Just hop over to our Contacts Page to claim your FREE ONE HOUR Skype or One-On-One Session. 

I would love to hear your comments on how you got your Prince Charming or how by believing in Fairy tales you still haven't found him.

©Annie Moyes - 2012-All Rights reserved

How To Get Rid Of Your Addictions - Fast!

You wouldn’t believe the lengths that people go to avoid dealing with their emotional pain. Or perhaps you would because you are suffering from one of these addictions right now?

Alcohol, prescription and recreational drugs, cosmetic surgery, gambling, food, extreme sports, computer games, shopping, obsessions, sex mania, destructive relationships, collecting, addictions of all sorts.

Every day you promise yourself, "This is the last time I drink", "Take a gamble", "Swallow those pills", "Drown my sorrows" or "Harm myself".  “I’m done”, “I’ve had it”! “No more” you promise. You know it’s bad for you but you can’t seem to help yourself, the more you think about quitting, the firmer hold they have on you.

And perhaps you can’t believe how you came to be in this predicament? No matter how hard to try you seem trapped on a treadmill to hell or total self-destruction.

But you know what, there is a reason for these addictions and once you understand why you might feel a whole lot better.

Our Brain Is Hard-Wired To Avoid Emotional Pain At All Costs! And to avoid the emotional pain we use whatever means we can to escape it.

 Once we become addicted we can then blame the addiction and not the pain for why we can’t or won’t change. Those of us unable to break free from our addictions justify or make excuses for it;

“I know it’s bad for me but..”

“I know it’s wrong but …”

“I know I shouldn’t be doing this but..”

“An alcoholic is someone who drinks more than me..”

“Smoking dope isn’t addictive..”

“I just want to make by boobs look better.. “

“I have a slow metabolism, I only need 500 calories a day..”

“I only drink one bottle of wine a night, my friends drink twice that much..”

We can justify our addictions until the cows come home, but the sad fact is we’re too scared to give them up in case the pain we’ve been suppressing all these years overwhelms us.  

Apart from the terrible damage these additions cause to our body, our relationships, our work and our lives, they just prolong the agony and make us feel more ashamed and guilty and helpless because we can’t control or stop them.

The cause of these addictions is simple. It is the ‘negative beliefs’ we took on in childhood that still control us today. Getting rid of the beliefs that caused the pain will stop the addictions dead in their tracks.

How do I know, because we have worked hundreds of clients with addictions. As they started removing their negative beliefs their addictions just disappeared because they no longer had the need to continue their self-destructive patterns and habits.

If you are addicted and would like to stop – permanently – hop over to our Contacts Page to book your FREE ONE HOUR Skype or One-On-One session and find out how you can safely and easily eliminate your addictions.

Our 100% Money Back Guarantee!

Our unique ‘Emmote’ process works deep at cellular level by totally removing the ‘negative thoughts and feelings’ that create our ‘negative beliefs’. It also severs the hardwired synapses in our brain between the thought and the feelings, eliminating them. Completely! Permanently!

You will be able to recall the incidents that created the beliefs with no negative feelings attached to it. It cannot ‘trigger’ the feelings because they are no longer there! Enabling you to move forward into your new, happier, more positive life.

And because we teach you how to use the ‘Emmote’ process we empower you with the knowledge and tools to help yourself whenever anything negative comes up for you in the future.  

Our ‘Emmote’ process is so powerfully life changing we 100% Guarantee it or we will refund your money.

©Annie Moyes –January 2013- All rights reserved