“LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE"

“LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE"

"LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE' children yell to each other when they get hurt or belittled.  So why do children start telling lies? Lying usually begins in childhood and is done to try to protect ourselves from something we have done or imagined is bad or wrong so we don’t get punished. If we believe we are being accused of something, we immediately go into a defensive or survival mode and start trying to deny it. This is 'a reflex...

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"Love And Other Bruises"

"Love And Other Bruises"

“Love and other bruises didn't have to choose us, but it did and I'm alive and I'm trying to survive” Air Supply Why does something that once felt so good now feel so terrible? That feeling of incredible love you felt when you first met the one your believed was ‘the one’. You know, ‘the one’  you believed would make you happy, support you and be there for you for the rest of your life? ‘The one’ you adored, who adored you,...

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You Have To Be Perfect Or You’ll End Up Like Me!

You Have To Be Perfect Or You’ll End Up Like Me!

'Sarah always had to colour inside the lines, not get herself dirty, eat everything on her plate and not talk back' My client Sarah’s mother, who had a lifelong battle with her weight, took Sarah to her 'Weight-Watchers' group every week from the day she was born until she was thirteen years old and refused to go any more. During the week her mother would also invite her Weight-Watcher’s friends around and they would moan and gripe about...

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A Child Who Lives With Criticism, Learns How To Condemn!

A Child Who Lives With Criticism, Learns How To Condemn!

"Children believe everything you say to them" Painful, hurtful and cutting criticisms become the ‘truth’ for children. If you don’t want your children to hate you when they grow up, here are a few examples from teenagers who were constantly criticised by their parents and who no longer have any contact with them.  Rob; “Both my parents give me the feeling that nothing I do is ever good enough. I am never enough. I don't even have to...

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You Just Broke Your Child's Heart!!!

You Just Broke Your Child's Heart!!!

The Negative Things Adults Say To Children. Here are just some of the shocking negative things that adults say to children, I have collected hundreds of these put-downs, criticisms and  threats over the years I have been working with clients. Some are so shocking just the thought of having to hear them from a parents mouth is enough to make you shudder! One client’s mother told him every day from the time he was two years old “You are a...

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Is Bullying Hurting Your Child?

Is Bullying Hurting Your Child?

“Could a scar be like the rings of a tree, reopened with each emotional season?” Magenta Periwinkle, Cutting Class Let’s get this straight. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE  FOR THE PROGRAMMES IN YOUR BRAIN!! Yes, that's correct, why? Because our brain is the most incredibly complex piece of equipment on the planet and literally programmes itself based on what it sees, hears and experiences. Because of our brain’s incredible storage capacity...

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