Are you still gnawing on the old bones of the unburied past? In 1985,  as part of my self-development programme, I spent a weekend doing a Cybernetics Workshop; and I was most impressed with not only the content of the course, but also the great people who ran it. Towards the end of the weekend we were asked to do a meditation on Forgiveness. It was explained to us that by being unable to forgive others, we keep them locked inside a prison...

"I am responsible for my own happiness" Happiness is a feeling, just like anxiety and fear, which comes in waves; it can’t sustain itself because it’s not humanly possible to be happy all the time. And do you know why? It’s because the ancient part of our brain that’s hardwired for survival (the Amygdala) is programmed from birth to look for any ‘threats’ in our environment just like any wild animal. If we’re ultra-sensitive or...

It is the dawn of my 65th birthday and I awoke at 5am dreaming about being on a trip with a lovely man.  But somehow I had ‘lost’ him and I spent most of the dream anxiously wandering around looking for him and woke up before I found him. For my birthday gift, my lovely son had bought me a framed Jack Vettriano print called ‘The Missing Man’ In the picture two women and one man, still dressed in evening clothes stand on a beach looking...

Once upon a time, there was a poor unloved  girl called Cinderella Once upon a time, there was a poor unloved  girl called Cinderella, who had to go and live with her Wicked Aunt and her two spoiled, ugly daughters.  Cinders was put to work, and as she was toiling day after day, she dreamed of a handsome loving man who would come along and rescue her from all this. She then imagined a lovely mansion where she could have everything she...

I don't waste my money buying glossy magazines, apart from the great design and the glossiness of them, they usually bore the pants off me! All those lipsticks, each promising to make our lips look like Angelina Jolie! Fat chance of that unless we subject ourselves to Botox! All those expensive moisturisers that swear to take ten years off our face! The fact is that they use 14 year old models to advertise their latest miracle product. Not much...

“This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man” Will Shakespeare; Active awareness is being aware of what is happening to us ‘as its happening’. This can include recognising the ‘voice over’ of our ‘negative beliefs’ as it’s happening or being aware that our buttons have been pushed and that we are feeling angry, embarrassed, humiliated, etc. right...