Healing The Pain Of Grief & Loss

Posted by on June 19, 2014 in Alone, Depression, Feelings, Happiness | Comments Off on Healing The Pain Of Grief & Loss

Healing The Pain Of Grief & Loss

My first experience of 'loss' came, when in the middle of the night, our family did one of our ‘moonlight flits'. I think I was about 8 years old. I remember I was sitting in the back of a van with my cat Fluffy in my arms, and she, being frightened by all the fuss and noise going on, jumped out of the window, leaving painful, bloody scratches on my arms and hands. I leapt out after her and ran around in the dark calling her name. Dad was desperate to get going (as would become the norm-non payment of rent) and picked me up and carried me...

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How To Stop Arguing in Just 5 Minutes!!

Posted by on June 10, 2014 in Anger, Blame, Blame, Fear, What Are Beliefs | 2 comments

How To Stop Arguing in Just 5 Minutes!!

"I Have To Be Right" You know something really weird? Ever since I got rid of my 'I have to be right'  beliefs way back in 90's, I've had this thought most days. "If every person on this earth eliminated the belief “I have to be right” the world as we know it would change overnight".  Wars, arguments and crime would stop. They would have to because all we are fighting for is 'to be right'. Think about it. Seriously!  If nobody had the genetic beliefs "I have to be right" then we could actually have a real conversation, real, honest...

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Core Belief No.4; I Hate Myself

Posted by on June 3, 2014 in Addictions, Rejected, Self Esteem, Self-Image, Shame | 1 comment

Core Belief No.4; I Hate Myself

How Do You Know If You Have This Belief? Get a pen, paper and calculator and then go and look in a mirror, a full-length one is preferable.  Now look into your eyes and then look slowly down your body. You will not want to do this because you will have the ‘voice-over’ whispering in your ear and you might feel like crying or feel angry. But be strong and persist. Do this for at least 3 minutes.  Then find a place where you can sit quietly and do the following exercise; Write down how much you spend a month on all/some of these...

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'How To Change The Way You Feel Not The Way You Look!'

Posted by on May 16, 2014 in Happiness, Self-Image, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on 'How To Change The Way You Feel Not The Way You Look!'

'How To Change The Way You Feel Not The Way You Look!'

'Young girls today are more afraid of getting fat, than of their parent's dying or of nuclear war!' Are you unhappy with the way you look? Who do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you hate yourself for not being the perfect image that the media tells you should be? Do you think there is nothing you can do to change your perception of yourself except take drastic measures like cosmetic surgery, liposuction, strenuous exercise or dieting? The cosmetic surgery, fashion, weight-loss and cosmetic industries spend (and earn) billions of...

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Anger - Is It Nature Or Nurture?

Posted by on April 28, 2014 in Anger, Blame, Blame, Communication, Guilt, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Anger - Is It Nature Or Nurture?

Anger - Is It Nature Or Nurture?

‘If a small thing has the power to make you angry,  does that not indicate something about your size?’  ~Sydney J. Harris A negative belief is simply a negative thought connected to a negative feeling. There are several layers of beliefs; Core Beliefs Base Beliefs Compulsion Beliefs Assumption Beliefs Negative Predictions Antagonist Beliefs Fear Beliefs Antagonist Beliefs are formed when as children we are denied what we need or want and we become angry. Not permitted to vent this anger, children become resentful. Not allowed to express...

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Addicted To Our Addictions

Posted by on April 20, 2014 in Addictions, Brain | Comments Off on Addicted To Our Addictions

Addicted To Our Addictions

You wouldn’t believe the lengths that people will go to avoid dealing with their emotional pain. Or perhaps you would because you are suffering from one of these addictions right now? Alcohol, prescription and recreational drugs, cosmetic surgery, gambling, food, extreme sports and exercise, computer games, shopping, obsessions, sex mania, destructive relationships, hoarding, addictions of all sorts. Every day you promise yourself, “This is the last time I drink, take a gamble, swallow those pills, drown my sorrows or harm myself”....

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Do You Sometimes Feel You're Going Mad?

Posted by on April 15, 2014 in Depression | Comments Off on Do You Sometimes Feel You're Going Mad?

Do You Sometimes Feel You're Going Mad?

 "You're Driving Me Mad!!" I don’t know about you but I just hate that label ‘Mental Illness’!  It always implies madness and or insanity to me. “She’s going mental”; “You’re driving me mental”, “I think I’m having a mental breakdown”, ‘Mental Institution’ ‘Mental Ward’. Although the word ‘mental’ does mean ‘Of The Mind’,  ‘Mental Illness’  has long been the cruel ‘catchall’ phrase invented by Psychology for all things pertaining to the brain and anything wrong with it. ‘Mental Illness’...

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Are You Dancing To The Beat Of Someone Else's Drum?

Posted by on April 7, 2014 in Self Esteem, Self-Image, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Are You Dancing To The Beat Of Someone Else's Drum?

Are You Dancing To The Beat Of Someone Else's Drum?

I’ve just finished reading Dean Koontz ‘False Memories’. A story of a power driven, wealthy Psychiatrist who hypnotises his clients to do truly disturbing and terrible things not only to themselves but also to others. This reminds me how vulnerable we all are to outside influences who shape our belief systems and create havoc , greed, hunger and hatred in our world. From huge corporations who prey on our need to belong, to fit in, to religions who tell us we should feel ashamed and guilty for just being ourselves. And to our parents and...

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How Emotionally Intelligent Are You?

Posted by on April 3, 2014 in Brain, Self Esteem | Comments Off on How Emotionally Intelligent Are You?

How Emotionally Intelligent Are You?

“This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man” Will Shakespeare; Emotional Intelligence is being aware of what is happening to us ‘as its happening’. This can include recognising the ‘voice over’  of our ‘negative beliefs’ or being aware that our buttons have been pushed and that we are feeling angry, embarrassed, humiliated, right now! Some of these feelings can be overwhelming, making us feel out of control, others might be just a vague sensation...

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Healing Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue

Posted by on March 19, 2014 in Self Esteem, Sickness, Testimonials | Comments Off on Healing Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue

Healing Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue

  I want you to know that before I learned the Emmote Programme I never felt the sense of power that is present in my life now. I had not been able to work for ten years as I has been very sick with Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Tiredness and stress would win me over and there was no joy in my life.  Removing my negative beliefs led me to retrain and enter the work force once again; I now have a new car, have a planned holiday in Bali, and going to Sydney at Christmas time. The love has increased in my family. I now get to...

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