Core Belief No.6 – “I Am Hopeless”

Posted by on October 30, 2014 in Depression, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Core Belief No.6 – “I Am Hopeless”

Core Belief No.6 – “I Am Hopeless”

“Though hope is frail it’s hard to kill” Belief needs faith to survive and hope to sustain it. But what happens when hope and faith is gone and we are just left with our 'negative beliefs'?   My parents never went to church, they never talked about god or Jesus and I never saw a bible until they made us to go to Sunday school to get us out of the house on a Sunday morning, so I never get indoctrinated with religion.  I got sent home after a couple of weeks for daring to argue that Jesus could not have walked on water because nobody...

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A Child Who Lives With Criticism, Learns How To Condemn!

Posted by on October 28, 2014 in Rejected, Self Esteem, Shame | Comments Off on A Child Who Lives With Criticism, Learns How To Condemn!

A Child Who Lives With Criticism, Learns How To Condemn!

"Children believe everything you say to them" Painful, hurtful and cutting criticisms become the ‘truth’ for children. If you don’t want your children to hate you when they grow up, here are a few examples from teenagers who were constantly criticised by their parents and who no longer have any contact with them.  Rob; “Both my parents give me the feeling that nothing I do is ever good enough. I am never enough. I don't even have to be doing wrong either, I can be doing well and doing really good and there is just something...

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You Just Broke Your Child's Heart!!!

Posted by on October 25, 2014 in Anger, Depression, Guilt, Rejected, Self Esteem, Shame | 1 comment

You Just Broke Your Child's Heart!!!

The Negative Things Adults Say To Children. Here are just some of the shocking negative things that adults say to children, I have collected hundreds of these put-downs, criticisms and  threats over the years I have been working with clients. Some are so shocking just the thought of having to hear them from a parents mouth is enough to make you shudder! One client’s mother told him every day from the time he was two years old “You are a F….. Little C..!  She said many other hurtful things as well, so you can imagine the impact that...

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Why Does Positive Thinking Fail?

Posted by on October 23, 2014 in Failure, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Why Does Positive Thinking Fail?

Why Does Positive Thinking Fail?

Why Does Positive Thinking Fail ? At some time or other most of us have tried positive thinking or affirmations to make us feel better, even if we don't know that's what we're doing when we try to talk ourselves into doing something. Most of us have failed. Why?  Apparently, this is where the universal 94% x 6%  rule comes in.  Statistically only 6% of people who ‘do’ positive thinking or positive affirmations succeed. That means that 94% of us will fail at positive thinking. Why? Our 'unconscious mind' contains a vast database of...

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Is Bullying Hurting Your Child?

Posted by on October 22, 2014 in Fear, Self Esteem, Shame, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Is Bullying Hurting Your Child?

Is Bullying Hurting Your Child?

“Could a scar be like the rings of a tree, reopened with each emotional season?” Magenta Periwinkle, Cutting Class Let’s get this straight. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE  FOR THE PROGRAMMES IN YOUR BRAIN!! Yes, that's correct, why? Because our brain is the most incredibly complex piece of equipment on the planet and literally programmes itself based on what it sees, hears and experiences. Because of our brain’s incredible storage capacity and its desire to survive in the only way it knows how, from the time we were born, it recorded all...

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What Are Expectation Beliefs?

Posted by on September 7, 2014 in Addictions, Failure, Negative Beliefs, Rejected, Shame, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on What Are Expectation Beliefs?

What Are Expectation Beliefs?

"Expectations are resentments under construction" - Anne Lamott From the moment we were born, most of our basic needs have been met. If they hadn't I wouldn’t be sitting here writing this page and you wouldn’t be reading it. As we grow, our family, society, advertising and the media exploit us by continually building our expectations, not only of ourselves, but of others and the world. These expectations can become so addictive they can become obsessions and totally destroy any modicum of reality or good sense we might once have...

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Everybody Worries About Money

Posted by on August 27, 2014 in Brain, Failure, Money | Comments Off on Everybody Worries About Money

Everybody Worries About Money

"Everybody Worries About Money" The very rich worry about what to do with their vast wealth; where to spend it, how much tax they have to pay on it, if the people they have administering it are trustworthy, how much to give to charity to offset their tax bill, what death duties will do to it and how much their children will inherit when they die. Moderately wealthy people worry about losing their hard-earned, hard-won money.  So they invest in property and small businesses and hope their stocks and shares gain enough interest to provide...

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Turning Off The 'Addiction Switch'

Posted by on August 26, 2014 in Addictions, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Turning Off The 'Addiction Switch'

Turning Off The 'Addiction Switch'

The Perfect Catch 22 The void that addiction attempts to fill with food, alcohol, drugs, shopping, relationships, sex etc. does not get filled by the choice of addiction. What the addiction does is keep creating the void so we can stay addicted to it in order to fill the void. Like anti-depressants we get addicted and then we have to keep taking them, not because of the depression, but because we’ve become addicted to them. Same with alcohol and all other addictions, we become addicted to the addiction.   Filling The Void That...

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Do You Ever Think You’re Stupid?

Posted by on June 27, 2014 in Brain, Failure, Self-Image, Shame, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Do You Ever Think You’re Stupid?

Do You Ever Think You’re Stupid?

Most of us believe we’re stupid! That’s a bold statement to make you might say, but when a person’s intelligence is measured by whether we can pass tests or not, it’s no wonder then that we come to believe we’re stupid. Plus, stupid is a word children bandy around to describe anything they don’t understand. Not only does not passing tests, not mean we are stupid, it means that being judged on our intellectual prowess damns most of us to hell! And who is it who is forced to take these ‘Intelligence Tests’? Teenagers and young...

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Core Belief No. 5 – Nobody Loves Me

Posted by on June 20, 2014 in Alone, Feelings, Love, Rejected, Relationships, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Core Belief No. 5 – Nobody Loves Me

Core Belief No. 5 – Nobody Loves Me

In his best-selling book ‘Biology of Belief’ Neuroscientist Bruce Lipton writes; ‘The mere thinking of positive thoughts will not necessarily have any impact on our lives at all. In fact some people who ‘flunk’ positive thinking become more debilitated, because now they think they and their situation is hopeless. They believe they have exhausted all body/mind remedies.’ The reason why this doesn’t work for the vast majority of us is that our 'negative beliefs' undermine our positive thoughts and affirmations: Here’s an...

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