"Love And Other Bruises"

Posted by on December 25, 2015 in Anger, Guilt, Shame, Violence, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on "Love And Other Bruises"

"Love And Other Bruises"

“Love and other bruises didn't have to choose us, but it did and I'm alive and I'm trying to survive” Air Supply Why does something that once felt so good now feel so terrible? That feeling of incredible love you felt when you first met the one your believed was ‘the one’. You know, ‘the one’  you believed would make you happy, support you and be there for you for the rest of your life? ‘The one’ you adored, who adored you, who held you fiercely, couldn’t wait to see every day, bought you gifts and flowers and romantic...

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Cinderella - A Fairytale Romance

Posted by on December 3, 2015 in Happiness, Love, Relationships | Comments Off on Cinderella - A Fairytale Romance

Cinderella - A Fairytale Romance

Cinderella - A Fairy-tale Romance If you're a mother of girls you've probably read this well-known fairy-tale to your daughter? Well most girls know how the story ends as we were raised on it as children, but here's just a quick recap for those of you who never read this story (particularly men). Cinderella was rescued by a ‘PRINCE ON A WHITE HORSE’! who had searched high and low looking for her, who immediately fell in love with her and took her away to his palace, lavished her with gifts and money and loads of the latest fashion shoes,...

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What Are Core Beliefs?

Posted by on December 1, 2015 in Beliefs, Brain, Failure, Happiness, Negative Beliefs, Rejected, Self Esteem, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on What Are Core Beliefs?

What Are Core Beliefs?

What  are ‘Core Beliefs’ and how do they keep us trapped in a life we never wanted?  As the name implies, ‘Core Beliefs’ live at the very core of our being.  These are the beliefs that are imprinted in the first few years of life before we had the ability to reason. Negative Core Beliefs are the most insidious beliefs because they mould and shape our personality and our view of ourselves and our world. Negative Core Beliefs are the beliefs that cause us the most long-term emotional damage, including depression, hopelessness,...

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How To Turn Off The ‘Addiction Switch’ - Permanently

Posted by on November 29, 2015 in Addictions, Depression, Self Esteem, Self-Image | 3 comments

How To Turn Off The ‘Addiction Switch’ - Permanently

Whether we're addicted to food, shopping, gambling, sex, recreational or prescription drugs, relationships, alcohol, computer games, work or sport or have any other form of compulsive behaviour, the underlying belief system is the same. All addictions stem from 'negative beliefs' and come to control and ruin our lives and because we usually get addicted early and we come to believe ‘we can’t live, or that life is not worth living without it!'. Addictions start off as ‘obsessive feelings or cravings’. These feelings can come about in...

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You Have To Be Perfect Or You’ll End Up Like Me!

Posted by on November 28, 2015 in Self Esteem, Self-Image, Shame | Comments Off on You Have To Be Perfect Or You’ll End Up Like Me!

You Have To Be Perfect Or You’ll End Up Like Me!

'Sarah always had to colour inside the lines, not get herself dirty, eat everything on her plate and not talk back' My client Sarah’s mother, who had a lifelong battle with her weight, took Sarah to her 'Weight-Watchers' group every week from the day she was born until she was thirteen years old and refused to go any more. During the week her mother would also invite her Weight-Watcher’s friends around and they would moan and gripe about their weight problems and diets and how much they hated themselves and their bodies and then console...

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Core Belief No. 3 – "I Am Not Good Enough"

Posted by on November 27, 2015 in Self Esteem, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Core Belief No. 3 – "I Am Not Good Enough"

Core Belief No. 3 – "I Am Not Good Enough"

"Why Can't I Just Be Good Enough?" Can you believe it! It’s nearly Christmas again and New Year just around the corner! Ready for some pre-festivities exercises? OK then, grab a pen and a piece of paper and then go look at yourself in a mirror, if you have a full-length one so much the better. If you have 'negative beliefs' about yourself and the way you look, you will quickly start feeling uncomfortable and want to give up, don’t! Just stand there looking at your face, in your eyes, at your body and then start paying attention to the...

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Our Brain-A Belief Making Machine

Posted by on November 27, 2015 in Depression, Feelings, Happiness, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Our Brain-A Belief Making Machine

Our Brain-A Belief Making Machine

 "I never cease being dumbfounded by the unbelievable things people believe. Leo Rosten" I have done much study and research on how our beliefs affect our happiness and how brain/mind  works over the past seventeen years. I spent the previous twenty years looking for ways to overcome my 'issues', when at my wit's end I chanced on the  ‘Negative Beliefs'. Just hearing those two words was THE light-bulb moment I'd been looking for all those years. My sixth sense - or intuition - screamed THIS IS IT!  And IT was! I spent the next ten...

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Now You Can Stop Worrying About Money!

Posted by on March 22, 2015 in Happiness, Money, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Now You Can Stop Worrying About Money!

Now You Can Stop Worrying About Money!

Are you, like me, tired of hearing the word ‘Money’ in virtually every sentence, TV ad, magazine and movie? It’s “Money this” or “If I had the money” or “I seem to spend so much money”, or “Do you dream of having more money”? Or “You can’t live without the latest Wii, iPad, or Smart Phone”. Nearly every email I receive tells me how I can increase my wealth by 'buying a course in SEO Marketing' or attending ‘How to make Money’ seminars, asking me to pay a fortune for it, each one of them saying virtually the...

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Why Does Our Brain Validate our Negative Beliefs?

Posted by on February 7, 2015 in Alone, Money, Relationships, What Are Beliefs | Comments Off on Why Does Our Brain Validate our Negative Beliefs?

Why Does Our Brain Validate our Negative Beliefs?

Because our brain tends to use one fixed, automatic, repetitive pattern to keep us from feeling the pain connected to the ‘negative belief’, say “I’M NOT GOOD ENOUGH", it’s impossible for us to 'unthink it', as it is stored in the unconscious vault and we will forever believe that we are not good enough. Unfortunately, having someone say to us “You’re really good at this” would also connect us to the same belief, so the same automatic belief comes in to block both positive and negative messages. This is generally called a...

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What Is THE Meaning of Life?

Posted by on December 5, 2014 in Annie, Happiness, Meaning | Comments Off on What Is THE Meaning of Life?

What Is THE Meaning of Life?

I've been watching Stephen Hawkins’s -  Grand Design, and last night’s episode was, ‘The Meaning of Life’.  As I watched the programme I remembered the exact moment in 2002, aged 54, when I realised that there is NO MEANING to life.  I had been quite seriously ill for the previous year and was still in recovery after the break-up of a long-term relationship. I had lost all motivation; I was physically and emotionally exhausted and had come to a complete stop. I didn't want to think about the future because all I could see was a...

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