The New Relationship

“This relationship seems to be getting serious. We’ve had a few dates and he seems really nice, we have similar interests but I don’t like that he spends Sunday afternoon playing golf. I would end up a ‘golf widow’ if we got married. He is thoughtful, reliable and kind and would probably be a great husband and father.  He’s very smart and has a university degree and I only finished high school, so once he gets to know me he might feel that I’m not intelligent enough for him.

He says his wife had an affair and left him, but you can’t really believe men, they will say anything to have sex with you. All men are liars.  Perhaps he drove her to it!  As he’s already got children will he want any more? I definitely want children so that would be a huge problem for me if he doesn’t.  And what if his children don’t like me, that’s going to be the worst thing because then he will dump me.

But still he’s the best guy I’ve been out with for ages, but what am I thinking? He will probably leave me anyway, he will find out that I am insecure and  he’s bound to think that I am not good enough for him, he will probably hate my body because I’m overweight and I know he won’t like my family because we’ve all got so many problems.

Should I keep going out with him and see what happens. Or should I break it off now before I get hurt. What if we get serious and his wife wants him back, I wouldn’t be able to take another heartbreak. Oh this is all too hard, what am I supposed to do?”

This is typical of an insecure woman’s irrational inner dialogue when she meets a man she likes, she starts creating a future on the relationship almost immediately. She will most likely have her wedding dress picked out long before she met him, so desperate is she to be loved and feel intimacy. However, coming from a broken home she has many negative beliefs about whether any man, particularly a ‘good man’, will find her good enough, pretty enough or smart enough for him.

The more negative beliefs she has about herself and men the more these thoughts will torment her and she will be unable to continue in the relationship and talk herself out of it, or she will push through the feelings and try to hang on to it. Often feeling like a fraud and always feeling that she is not good enough for him so she has to try so much harder to keep him happy to prove how good she is.

If you have similar thoughts you probably have some negative beliefs you need to eliminate so you can enjoy the journey through a new relationship and see how it unfolds, rather than expecting it to be the way you believe it will or should be.

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