Love & Marriage - Is It Just a Belief System?
What’s The Worst That Could Happen?
The ‘Big Day’ is just weeks away and you’re panicking, you’re imagining 'the worst' will happen, perhaps getting ‘cold feet’ and wondering if this ‘getting married’ business is worth all the trouble and expense. Before one of the most important days of our lives I think it might be wise to reflect on why so many people feel so nervous about it.
Perhaps it’s because the latest divorce statistics seem to reflect that marriage seems to be taken less seriously than buying a house. And buying a new car seems to be more logically and carefully thought out than choosing the right partner!
Twenty-three of the world’s wealthiest countries record a shocking 38 - 55% of marriages ending in divorce, with Belarus, Finland, Sweden, Norway and Luxemburg recording the highest percentage at between 50-55%. India, Armenia, Albania, Italy, Sri Lanka and Turkey come in with lowest rates of between 1-10%.
Looking at the statistics perhaps there’s is indeed something in the old saying about ‘money not buying happiness?’ With such statistics, it’s no wonder that we feel so much anxiety about our upcoming nuptials.
Perhaps it could be that we just realised that we just don’t know our intended partner well enough to make a lifetime commitment? Or that our expectations of what marriage is ‘supposed to be’ are based not on reality but on ancient belief systems and fairy tales? Also if we come from a family where our parents divorced we might be scared the same thing will happen to us and we worry about whether we’ve chosen the right person to commit to.
Another reason so many of us still choose marriage over cohabitation might be that the relationships of couples who just ‘live together’ are more fragile and more inclined to break down than legal marriages because there is no real commitment to make it work.
Startling statistics also prove that children of couples who ‘co-habitate’ are more at risk of sexual and physical abuse by live-in step-parents and are more likely to get into trouble or run away from home than their friends whose parents are legally married.
So why do women put themselves under so much pressure to have the biggest, best and most expensive wedding they can afford, or even going in debt for it, spending more time and energy thinking about a wedding dress than considering the consequences of a lifetime ‘having and holding’ the same person through thick and thin, even hiring a ‘Wedding Planner’ to co-ordinate the event. It’s a shame we don’t employ ‘A Marriage Councillor” before getting married!
Most men would be happy with a Registry Office or a Marriage Celebrant with a few friends to help them celebrate, so why do most women still buy into the fairytale of Cinderella and Prince Charming and the expectations of what a wedding day ‘should look like’, and even now believe that without the huge spectacle attached to it she is inferior, a throwback to the days not so long ago when the husband ‘owned’ the wife and was always considered more important?
If you’re getting married soon and are having some doubts, it might be worthwhile to eliminate as many negative beliefs as you can before you take your wedding vows, so that you can have not only have the ‘Wedding of your Dreams’ without stress and anxiety, and go into your marriage completely sure that you have chosen your life’s partner and are committed to making it work.
If you have ‘cold feet’ or the ‘pre-wedding jitters', just hop over to our Contacts Page to receive your FREE ONE-HOUR Skype or One-On-One session and send us a message. We will get back to you.
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Our ‘Emmote’ process works by eliminating the ‘negative thoughts and feelings’ that create a ‘negative belief’. This severs the synapse between the subconscious thought and the conscious feelings, thereby eliminating it completely!
If the negative memory was ‘imagined’ you will never think of it again. If it was real you will be able to recall the circumstance but not the feelings attached to it. It will no longer ‘trigger’ the feelings, thereby enabling you to move forward. And because we teach you how to use the process we empower you with the knowledge and skills to help yourself whenever anything negative comes up for you.
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